Brave New Beginnings

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If I could use one word to describe 2015 thus far, it would be change. My life is completely different today than it was a year ago. God has literally changed every aspect of my life in the past year alone, and ya know what? He’s not even done yet. Exciting, yeah? But it’s also terrifying.

I don’t like to be scared. I hate it actually. Which is probably why I had never ridden a roller coaster in my life until I was eighteen years old. It took me eighteen years, to finally take the chance and ride one. If we ever happen to be riding a roller coaster together some day, I’ll just give ya a heads up: I’m the girl who prays the entire ride and holds on for dear life.

It was terrifying for sure, but it was also exhilarating, intense and, dare I say, wonderful? I love roller coasters now, but if I hadn’t taken the chance just one time, I never would have discovered this.

This new year is full of opportunities to do the things that scare me to death and to be totally honest, I don’t know how I feel about that at all. But I do know one thing, God’s got this.

I want to be brave, more than anything. I want to be able to make the hard decisions, to stare fear in the face and take the next step regardless. Kind of crazy for a twenty-four year old who still has a massive fear of thunderstorms and has to have her almost twenty year old Simba stuffed animal to comfort her, right?

As I write today, I’m sitting by my great-grandmother’s bedside in a little nursing home cradled away in Pataskala, Ohio. One of the greatest influences she has had on my life is her strength. Strength to love, strength to survive, strength to live. And now at the end of her days, she is surrounded by family that now has to be strong enough to let go.

I wish I could sit and listen to the stories of her life over the past ninety-one years. I know one thing though, she can look back over her life and smile because she knows she was brave. And I pray that one day I can look back over my life and say that I was brave as well.

God is changing everything. Situations, opportunities, He’s taken people out of my life, and brought new people in, and I know it’s all for a reason. He’s setting up a much bigger picture than I can see right now. And this all happened when I prayed a simple prayer, “God, let me brave.”

I was hoping beyond all hope that He would just instill bravery in me and I would be able to face the armies of Mordor with nothing more than a bow and a single arrow. (I’ve never shot a bow before in my life, and for those of you who caught my Lord of the Rings reference, you’re awesome) So clearly, that’s brave. But He didn’t. Instead He’s given me countless opportunities everyday to be brave. Whether they are big or small, they still take courage and faith that He knows what He’s doing.

Can you imagine if we all chose to be brave as our first line of defense? My Pastor says that fear and faith have one thing in common: you have to believe in them. I don’t know about you, but I want to believe in faith.

I have a promise in my heart and believing that I will see it fulfilled requires me to be brave. In the midst of hurt and heartbreak, uncertainty, and doubt, I have to be brave to trust that God is working everything out for His good in His timing.

Do me a favor. Take one second to think about situations in your life. Those things that scare you to death, and consider for a moment how different everything would be if you chose to believe in faith instead of that fear?

We have so much more to live for than just surviving everyday and hoping things will just happen to turn around. Let’s be brave. Let’s have faith. And let’s watch God radically change everything for His Glory.

Xo– Britt

Five Reasons Why I Refuse To Date Church Boys

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Yep, you read that right. I have been saving this post for a few months now, just waiting to share it. So today, we’re going there. Fasten your seat belts, ‘cause this just might be a bit of a bumpy ride.

Reason #1 This might be common sense, but I feel it needs to be said. Just because a guy goes to church does not mean he loves Jesus. Honestly, I’ve met a few church boys who didn’t even know who He is. Just sayin’.

Reason #2 There’s a big difference between a church boy and a man of God. Believe me, I learned this one the hard way. Just because you want a guy to be a man of God does not make him one. Ladies, it does NOT make him one. Stop trying to make him one.

Reason #3 Some church boys will do everything they can to take your purity. A true man of God will never compromise your purity, I promise you that. He will do everything he can to heroically protect it.

Reason #4 This one is one of my biggest pet peeves. Honestly, it makes me sick. Church boys throw around phrases like, ‘God told me we are meant to be together’. Isn’t it crazy how that changes a month or so later and God ‘tells’ them not to date anyone? Oh and they are actually just dating someone else. Ya see, a man of God won’t make excuses. He’ll be honest with you every step of the way. The truth hurts sometimes, but the right guy will handle it as gracefully as he can. A church boy will make excuses and say things that don’t contain an ounce of truth and then stamp God’s name on it. That’s so not okay. I could talk about this one all day, but we’ll save it for another time. Moving on.

Reason #5 Church boys care more about themselves than they do about Christ. They want all the glory. They want to be acknowledged for everything they do. As long as their name is on everyone’s lips, they’re happy. A man of God is sold out to Christ. He dies to himself daily. He doesn’t want the acknowledgment; he gives God ALL of the glory. He doesn’t compromise his standards for anything or anyone. And he refuses to be a part of something that he knows God would not approve of. Whether that means having worldly fame or not.

I’ve watched too many girls, myself included, settle for immature church boys and have their hearts broken over and over again. It’s time we stop letting the world tell us we have no choice but to settle and listen to what God tells us instead. Ya see, He has a wonderful plan for each of us and if we just trust Him, He will lead us to the right person at exactly the right time.

Being single isn’t always fun, especially during the holidays, I know. But I would much rather be single than be with someone who is not meant for me.

I don’t know about you, but I’m so done listening to the world’s opinions. I refuse to settle for less than God’s very best. Who’s with me?

Xo- Britt

It’s Time

It's TimeA year later and my life could not be more different, but I thought nights like this were behind me for good. Looking in the mirror and seeing my tear-stained face staring back at me is not something I was prepared for tonight because somewhere along the way I forgot.

People can be so cruel.

But there’s still hope. There’s always hope.

When you fall, God will pick you up. When you cry, He will cradle every single tear in His hands. When you call on Him, He will answer. People will fail you, God cannot. No matter what you’re walking through right now, remember these three things:

#1. It does NOT matter what people say or think about you. You had a purpose before anyone had an opinion.

#2. God has a plan. Whether you question that plan or not, He has one. And I assure you, it’s better than anything you will ever come up with on your own.

#3. And finally, this one is my favorite. Maybe your heart has been broken, shattered, and it feels like a crumpled up piece of paper sometimes, let me just encourage you to not lose hope. I know it’s hard sometimes, but you have to remember that God keeps His promises.

I don’t know about you, but I’m carrying a promise in my heart right now. And I’m not willing to lose sight of that for anything this world could possibly have to offer. People may doubt your promise, they may attack it and you. Don’t let that keep you from believing in it.

If God placed that promise in your heart, He will fulfill it. And when He does, it will be absolutely beautiful.

It’s time we stop letting people control how we feel about something that’s really none of their business anyway.

Keep praying. Keep believing. Keep trusting God.

As I found myself and my promise attacked again tonight as it has been pretty relentlessly the past few months, I felt my sweet Savior whisper in my heart, “It’s time.”

It’s time we stop doubting Him. It’s time we stand up for His Word. It’s time to kick the enemy in the teeth and walk in the promises and blessing God has for us.

He is faithful.

Xo– Britt

My Forgiveness Is Broken

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Have you ever been hurt? Heartbroken? Beyond that? How easy was it for you to forgive the person who hurt you? For most people, that’s the hardest step. Taking that leap of faith and forgiving the person who tore your heart into pieces. But as you probably have already guessed, I’m not like most people.

Forgiveness was easy for me. It was almost automatic. Well, forgiving the other person was anyway. I had a terrible time forgiving myself for letting it happen. Even though it wasn’t my fault, I felt like it was. I should have seen everything coming. I would have handled it all differently.

 Sidebar: Listen up, stop worrying about the could have’s of life. If it should have happened it would have. Simple as that.

 So, forgiveness… How much is too much? How little is too little? Is it possible to forgive too much? I wish I knew the answers to these questions.

 What I do know is that it is possible to have a warped view of forgiveness. The Bible tells us to forgive just as we’ve been forgiven for a multitude of sins. Amen? But I had to learn a slightly different lesson. It was hard, it was messy, it was super uncomfortable, but in the end it was worth it.

Just because you forgive someone does not mean you have to hang out with them.

You don’t have to be their best friend.

Pray for the people who hurt you. Forgive them, but know that sometimes after you do that, you have to walk away.

Ya see, my forgiveness was broken. I thought since Jesus forgives me every single time I mess up, I needed to do the same thing. BUT the more I forgave this person the more I was hurt. It was the same story over and over and over again. It was ridiculous. When someone accidentally hurts you, it’s a little hard to forgive, but you get over it. When someone is intentionally hurting you, it’s a different story.

Cutting people out of your life is hard. Especially when there is a long history there. But you have to realize that you are worth so much more than the life of broken forgiveness that you’re settling for.

It is possible to love people from a distance. Believe me, I did it for months. It’s hard sometimes. It hurts to look at someone who once meant the world to you and see a total stranger. But if distance allows God to heal your heart fully, it is worth it all!

Hang in there, my friends. You can never be too broken for God to mend you.

 

Xo — Britt

Paris, Wait For Me

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Have you ever felt desperate for change? You don’t necessarily know what you want, but you know it’s a change. Maybe you need to meet some new people or let some old people go. Or maybe you need to go somewhere new. Regardless, you need a change and you need it now.

That’s where I am. That’s where I’ve been for what seems like eight years (but it’s only been about six months… Same difference). I’m just so over everything. I need adventure. I need love. I need a change.

This comes as a total surprise, too. I’m on the right track. I have a wonderful job that I actually enjoy, I just bought a new car (His name is Watson), and I’m now looking for a house. Yep, this girl is rumbling into the adult world at full force. But I’m still not content. I need something.

Could it be that I’m the problem? I’m not the same person I was a year ago. Heck, I’m not the same person I was six months ago. Heartbreak and life will do that to ya. So maybe those dreams have changed? It’s like no matter what lines up in my life, it’s not enough.

All I can think about lately is how badly I wish I was in Paris right now. Writing under the Eiffel Tower waiting for Benedict Cumberbatch or Orlando Bloom to meet me for lunch. (Hey, a girl can dream can’t she?) :)

Maybe I’m just unrealistic. Or maybe I’ve finally realized that I don’t have to settle for life as usual and neither do you. Jesus came to this earth so that we could have life and live it ABUNDANTLY. It’s time to start dreaming again. It’s time to start believing again. It’s time for a new chapter, my friends.

So, Paris? Wait for me. This adventure is only beginning. Who’s with me?

Xo — Britt

Misery Loves Company

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Have you ever been around someone who is always miserable? Someone who

constantly searches for the negative in absolutely everything? How do you feel

after being around them? Miserable? It’s like they suck the life and joy right

out of you, right?

 

Do you know anyone like that? I’m sure you do. I can think of a few in my own

life right now. So how do we handle those less than positive people? 

 

Pray for them. Pray that God would soften their hearts and allow Him to show

them the world through His eyes.

 

Don’t allow the negativity to seep into your soul. Negative people hate being

around positive people. It upsets them, because everything upsets them. So be positive.

 

•Finally, this is the most important, remember that misery loves company. I’m

gonna let you in on a little secret, and this may shock you, but you don’t have to visit. That’s right, you don’t have to visit. When misery comes your way, just walk away. Sometimes this

can mean just creating a little distance between yourself and the person bringing you down, but sometimes it means walking away.

 The latter is not easy. Walking away doesn’t mean that you don’t care or you

don’t love them. It just means that you care enough about yourself to not let

anyone steal your joy. You deserve to be happy! Refuse to let anyone convince

you otherwise.

 

The next time misery knocks on your door, pretend you aren’t at home. You can

even be dramatic about it. Turn off all the lights, crawl across the floor and

hide in a closet if ya want. My point is, getting sucked into misery and drama is

not worth it.

 

Pray about the situation. Pray for the people involved. And if distancing

yourself isn’t enough, and God is leading you in a different direction, walk

away.

Xo — Britt

A Single Pringle’s Guide to Weddings

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Summer time is here! Beach waves, tan skin, and new summer romances are all around us. There’s just something about summer that makes falling in love even more magical. This post is all about summer love and happily ever afters… for someone else. Yep, you read that right. This is one of the most requested posts I’ve ever had. We’re talking about how to survive the wedding season for Single Pringles.

I’ve attended eight weddings since last April. Have you ever noticed that your friends all get married at the same time? It’s so weird. Anyway, I was a single pringle for all but one, and even then I still went to the wedding by myself because my beau at the time had to work. Before we get into this thing, it’s important to know where you stand.

Maybe you are like me and going to weddings by yourself doesn’t really bother you. Or maybe you’re one of those people who refuse to go to a wedding without a date by your side. Either way, I hope this post helps you cope with the upcoming wedding season.

Everyone is different so things that don’t bother me at weddings might drive you crazy and vice versa. So if you have any other ways that you cope with the grand event please leave your comments below. :)

  • This may seem a bit harsh, but it’s really important, especially if you’re one of those people who refuse to go to a wedding without a date. You need to realize that this day is NOT about you. It’s not. It’s about the bride and groom. The world does not revolve around you, just in case you were wondering.
  • Before you decide that you won’t be attending the wedding because you are dateless think about how you would feel if your friend did the same thing to you. I don’t know about you, but I would not miss my friend’s special day just because I didn’t have a date.. juss sayin’.
  • Going to a wedding by yourself is not as bad as you think it is. There are moments that could end up being a bit disastrous, but there are ways to avoid them.

Here are my tips for surviving a wedding as a single pringle.

-Smile, a lot. Weddings are meant to be a day of love and happiness. If you’re walking around frowning you’re kind of a buzz kill. Kind of like Cinderella and her step-sisters… don’t be an ugly step-sister.

-Dance. Enjoy the day. You’ll feel better if you cut a rug… juss sayin’.

-Celebrate. Refuse to be the single pringle who sits in a corner and just watches everyone else enjoy themselves. How would you feel if your friends came to your wedding and sat in a corner and complained the whole time? Don’t be that friend.

-Ignore the single pringle comments. When my sister got married last year, I constantly had people all day asking me when it was going to be my turn. Those comments can hurt if you let them get to you. Instead of stuffing your face with wedding cake and crying in a closet, just smile and tell them that God is writing your love story. It’s kind of hard to complain when the Creator of the universe is picking out your soulmate, right?

And finally, remember that you are not forever alone. I know it’s hard. Being a single pringle can be lonely and sad and heartbreaking sometimes, but God is not finished with you yet. He knows exactly where you are and He is preparing you for a future only He can see. Don’t rush the process. If you skip the preparation, you’ll miss your destination.

God is writing your story. Don’t settle out of loneliness for a frog when your prince is right around the corner. Your very own happily ever after may be closer than you think.

Xo- Britt

Secrets Hidden Behind Closed Doors

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We all have secrets. We all have things we would rather not share with others. Some secrets are harmless. For example, wanna know a secret? I ate a carton of ice cream while crying my eyes out and watching Sherlock three weeks ago. Was it harmful? No. Embarrassing? Maybe a little. But, I’m not talking about those secrets. What about the things we’ve done or are doing that we know are wrong? Those kind of secrets. The ones that could tear your world apart and flip it upside down if anyone ever found out. Are you cringing yet? Me too, but hang on, we’ll make it through this together.

I’m talking about those secrets that only you know. The ones that you shouldn’t have because they never should have happened. The ones that keep you up at night. The ones that are always there in the back of your mind. The ones you have hidden behind mountains of lies. Ya know what I’m talking about? Well, what if I told you, Someone else knows your secret? Is your stomach turning yet?

Those dark secrets that you think sit behind huge closed doors never to be opened? Yep, those exact ones. Someone else knew about them before you ever had them. How could anyone possibly know that, right?

God knows everything. He knew you would carry that secret before you ever did. He knew each and every temptation you would struggle with.

So God knows my secret… so what? Yeah, He knew the secrets you would carry, but He also offered you an escape. You were never meant to carry those secrets. You were never meant to bear this burden on your own. Give your secrets to God. Stop playing around. Be real, be open with Him. You have no idea just how freeing that is.

Trust me, I don’t care how thick you think your closed doors are. I don’t care how many lies you’ve covered those secrets up with. They could be buried in a dungeon behind a door with a thousand locks and bolts, your secret will come out.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve hidden, how secret you think they are. When the Truth shines in the darkness, there is nowhere for your secrets to hide.

Stop hiding. Stop lying. Just stop.

God already knows everything and He still loves you unconditionally. He’s just waiting for you to come back to Him. Show Him your heart. You won’t regret it.

“For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be made known and come to light.” Luke 8:17

“For God will bring every deed into judgment, with every secret thing, whether good or evil.” Ecclesiastes 12:14

“For nothing is hidden except to be made manifest; nor is anything secret except come to light.” Mark 4:22

“Therefore whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops.” Luke 12:3

“Would God not discover this? For He knows the secrets of the heart.” Psalm 44:21

You can get it out in the open with God now, or you can wait. Your secrets are not as secret as you think they are and I promise you, they will come out eventually. Plan accordingly.

Xo–Britt

… But He Loves Jesus

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He’s seriously so amazing, girl. He’s funny, he’s sweet, and he loves Jesus!’ I so excitedly confided in my best friend. Everything seemed perfect. What I didn’t realize was just how far from perfect it really was.

In a world where standards and morals are rare, it can be tough for a single pringle. Especially since good, Godly men are few and far between these days. So when you find one, it’s almost too easy to get too excited far too soon.

I was eighteen and in love with being in love. I learned two huge lessons that year. One, just because a guy loves Jesus does not mean he is the one for you. And two, just because a guy says he loves Jesus does not mean he does.

I know so many girls that think just because they meet a new guy who says he loves Jesus that they are going to get married. I’m not saying it can’t be that easy, but it’s not always that simple.

I know several guys who say they love Jesus and they don’t even really know Who He is. Can I just be real with you for a second? If a guy is telling you that he loves Jesus, but is trying to compromise your purity at the same time, RUN. If he is truly sold out to Christ like he says, then he will do whatever he can to heroically protect your purity.

I know it’s frustrating, and I know how hard it is to think you’ve finally found ‘the one’ only to be let down. No matter how limited you feel your choices are, NEVER drop your standards.

“Men with standards of their own aren’t intimidated by the idea of living up to someone else’s. If he says your standards are too high, chances are his are non-existent.” Lauren DeMoss, thefulltimegirl.com

I know it may not always seem like it, but there are still good guys out there. Awesome men of God do exist. Don’t believe me? Check out my post, A Godly Man, Who Can Find?

God has not forgotten you. He loves you so much. Trust that His plan is better than yours. And always remember, that you deserve His absolute best. Grow closer to Him each and every day.

You deserve a man who truly loves Jesus and backs it up with the way he lives his life every single day.

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5,6

“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

Xo — Britt

Copy Cat

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Trying to be someone else is a total and complete waste of the person God created YOU to be. One of my biggest pet peeves in the entire universe is when people copy others. It’s fine to look up to people, be inspired, and have role models. Those are all great things, but you can be inspired by someone without copying their lives.

This is something I have had a lot of experience with lately. I seriously have someone copying my life and it’s honestly driving me nuts. Legit every single thing I have done the past few months, this person does. They copy even the smallest things, I changed my name on twitter, they changed theirs. I put a picture up on Instagram, they take a picture exactly like it and post it. It’s insane!

I was extra frustrated about this yesterday, but then I read a Facebook status by one of my favorite writers, Jarrid Wilson.

“I wouldn’t encourage anyone to mimic their life off of me, or anyone else for that matter. The only person I would point to is Christ.”

After I read that, I wanted to reach through my computer and hug him. It was seriously so perfect. High five, Jarrid! ‘I would never encourage anyone to mimic their life off of me.’ I cannot get over how amazing this is.

God has a one-of-a-kind, unique plan for YOUR life. If you are constantly trying to be someone else, you’re not living out His Will for you. You are YOU for a REASON. Stop chasing after someone else’s anointing, stop copying everything someone else does. You have no idea what God has called them to walk through to get where they are. Believe me, you don’t want to go where I’ve been.

If you are a copy cat, find your own identity in Christ. Find yourself. BE YOURSELF.

If you are a victim of a copy cat, don’t let it get to you. I know it’s annoying, and I know it’s incredibly frustrating. Just keep being you. Let that light shine and don’t allow them to put it out. If your copy cat doesn’t want to live their own life, there’s really nothing you can do about it. Be kind, show Jesus, and trust that He will take care of it.

Never forget, that purely being you, is one of the most beautiful things in this world. You are special, one-of-a-kind, and awesome. Don’t waste your time being anything less than yourself.

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.” Psalm 139:14-16 ESV

“Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching” Romans 12:6-7 ESV

Be yourself, y’all. You’re awesome. God loves you for YOU. Never forget it!

Xo — Britt