Set Apart For Greater

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Here we are on the precipice of summer. Are ya excited? Are you bummed? Or are you not exactly sure how you feel? I was excited last week, bummed this weekend, and now unsure of everything. Internet fist pump if ya relate.

Have you ever noticed that new cliques seem to merge together right on the eve of summer? Let’s talk about it.

Summer can be an exciting time. Vacations, parties, bonfires, festivals, it’s all set up to be spectacular, yeah? But what about the single pringles? The random people who somehow find themselves standing on the outside of the newly formed clique. Has this ever happened to you?

The cliques form almost instantaneously. You don’t even realize it has happened until you’re the only one not invited. Not being included in plans isn’t so bad, because you don’t know until much later that all your friends were hanging out without you. HOWEVER, thanks to social media, the sting of being left out is a little harder to avoid.

You know what I’m talking about. Pictures and tagged statuses of inside jokes erupt on Facebook. The worst part is when you knew the event was happening, you just didn’t know when. And your friends told you they would let you know… But they never did.

Can I just speak to my fellow single pringles for a second? I know it’s not easy when you feel yourself being pushed out of your group, so let me encourage you, yeah? Ya ready?

These are just a few things God has really been showing me lately, and I hope they help you as much as they have been helping me.

First of all, realize that when it feels like you’re being left out, God is setting you apart for something GREATER. You may not know what that greater is just yet, but it does not mean it’s not there. God has an incredible, uniquely beautiful plan for your life. He is setting you apart for a reason.

Secondly, maybe your evenings are suddenly free because He is pleading for time with you. Use those lonely nights to dig into the Word and allow God to renew your spirit.

Just because you feel left out, does not mean God has forgotten you. Just remember, when you’re down to nothing, God is up to something! He’s moving on your behalf! Trust Him!

And don’t you dare pull the whole, “Oh, I’m being pushed out because I’m not good enough.” If that is truly the reason, then they aren’t really your friends. And you don’t need people like that in your life.

And finally, this one can be the hardest for us to remember sometimes: When you go from having all the friends in the world to only One, but that One is Jesus, you have all you need. Even if the entire world turns its back on you, He never will. He loves you, and He walks with you through every single day.

Being left out is one of the worst feelings in the world, but know that He Who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. You are not walking through this alone.

You are loved. You matter. You are NOT forgotten.

Keep hoping. Keep loving. And keep trusting. God will see you through. He’s got this.

Xo — Britt

Get It Together

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There is an elderly couple that attends my church and every time I speak with them, I leave hurt. I have gone so far as to avoid them at all costs, but unfortunately a few weeks ago, I was cornered on my way in for the Sunday morning service. Every single time I see these two, they ask me the same question, “Do you have a boyfriend yet?”

And I’m asked twice because they don’t hear the other one ask me the first time. This question is brought up Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Thursday night. Every. Single. Time. The one that kills me is the Sunday night one. They literally asked me if I was dating someone a few hours ago, do they really think I entered into a relationship that quickly? It’s so tempting to just be like, ‘Yeah, I stopped at the gas station on my way here and decided I’d just pick one up while I was there.’ Seriously.

So clearly, avoiding them has become a necessity. My last run in with them a few weeks ago was one of the worst ones yet. They started in with the boyfriend questions, I politely answered and slowly started scanning the room for someone, ANYONE, I could talk to instead; when she started to tell me why I didn’t have a boyfriend. As I stood trying to listen, one of my best friends walked in. I quickly excused myself and started to walk away when she barked these words at me that pierced my heart like a hundred tiny daggers: “You better get your life together one of these days. Just pick someone and settle down. You’re not getting any younger. You should’ve stayed with the last one. You’d be engaged right now.”

My dear friends, I cannot tell you how hard it was for me to not just explode right there. I have so many things to say and it would take me hours to completely empty my heart of it all. So let me just start with this. First of all, I don’t care what anyone tells you, you do not need a man to get your life together. That’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. I may not be married, but that does not mean I don’t have my life together. It’s not perfect by any means, but I love it. Ladies, you do not need a man to complete you and you definitely don’t need a man to start living your life and get it together.

Secondly, settling for someone just because you want to be married is one of the biggest mistakes you could ever make. God has a much bigger plan for you than you can see right now. I don’t know about you, but I sure as heck am not about to forfeit the amazing plan He has for me just because someone tells me I should.

And finally, be careful who you listen to. I love when people, who don’t even know me, like this couple, tell me who I should and should not be with. Ya see, the people in my life who actually matter and actually know me, know why my last relationship ended. They, unlike this couple, know exactly who my old boyfriend really is, and believe me, he had everyone fooled. The true friends I have in my life know that going back to that relationship will never, ever, ever, happen. And if it does, I should be sent to a mental hospital immediately because I have absolutely lost my mind.

I know the path that God has called me to. It’s not considered normal, I’m well aware of that. And it’s moments like these that I’m even more aware of it. We’re not called to be part of this world. We’re set apart and called to do extraordinary things for Christ.

To my single pringles, don’t give up. Help the toxic and negative people exit your life and surround yourself with people who will build you up and speak into your life. If you feel like you don’t have anyone in your life that believes in you, I’m always here. (beautiful_promise@yahoo.com) You can message me ANYTIME.

You are worth so much more. Don’t settle. Don’t give up. Allow God to grow your faith and take you places you never imagined.

We will get through this together.

Love always,

Britt

Camping Along The Border

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We are an impatient people. We hate waiting. No matter what it is we’re waiting for. We’re all guilty. Tell me you don’t get a little impatient sometimes and I’ll show you ten minutes ago when you hastily barked out your order at McDonalds and couldn’t get through the drive thru fast enough. And then you felt like Veruca in Willy Wonka. I want my chocolate milkshake and I want it now! (don’t judge me, I know I’m not alone in this! Ice cream has an incredible healing power. Amen?)

It’s okay to be a little impatient. It’s okay to question why you’re finding yourself in a season of waiting. Let’s say you and your three best friends are all waiting for the same thing. It could be a job, a relationship, a certain situation, etc. You’re all waiting. And one by one, within the same week, your three best friends all get the very thing they’ve been waiting for. The same thing you were waiting for…

But, you’re still waiting.

A myriad of emotions begins to well up inside that bruised little heart of yours. At first, you think your time has also arrived. The promise you’ve been praying for is finally being fulfilled! Yet day after day, week after week, you watch your friends enjoying the only thing you ever wanted and you’re still waiting.

It’s easy to feel left out. You ignore it at first, and act like you don’t even care. It doesn’t matter. And then one night the walls holding your feelings in bursts and before you know it you find yourself crying in your closet, eating a carton of ice cream, and asking God why He allowed Benedict Cumberbatch to marry someone else.

True story.

If you find yourself in what seems like a perpetual waiting room, can I just encourage you for a second? Don’t give up and don’t give in to the temptation to settle for less than what you deserve.

It’s okay to have questions. It’s okay to not understand. As long as you still trust God regardless of what your situation looks like.

“There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” Nelson Mandela

As my Pastor says, why would we settle for camping on the border of the promises of God? It’s time to stop settling. God has so much more planned for us, we just have to take that next step and refuse to settle for anything less than the full promises of God. (For all the promises of God in him are yea, and in him Amen, unto the glory of God by us. (2 Corinthians 1:20 KJV))

Keep not settling. I know it can be hard sometimes, but hold your ground. I don’t want to give up right on the border of my promise, do you?

Keep fighting. Keep hoping. Keep believing. Keep loving.

You’re closer than you think.

xo — Britt

Brave New Beginnings

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If I could use one word to describe 2015 thus far, it would be change. My life is completely different today than it was a year ago. God has literally changed every aspect of my life in the past year alone, and ya know what? He’s not even done yet. Exciting, yeah? But it’s also terrifying.

I don’t like to be scared. I hate it actually. Which is probably why I had never ridden a roller coaster in my life until I was eighteen years old. It took me eighteen years, to finally take the chance and ride one. If we ever happen to be riding a roller coaster together some day, I’ll just give ya a heads up: I’m the girl who prays the entire ride and holds on for dear life.

It was terrifying for sure, but it was also exhilarating, intense and, dare I say, wonderful? I love roller coasters now, but if I hadn’t taken the chance just one time, I never would have discovered this.

This new year is full of opportunities to do the things that scare me to death and to be totally honest, I don’t know how I feel about that at all. But I do know one thing, God’s got this.

I want to be brave, more than anything. I want to be able to make the hard decisions, to stare fear in the face and take the next step regardless. Kind of crazy for a twenty-four year old who still has a massive fear of thunderstorms and has to have her almost twenty year old Simba stuffed animal to comfort her, right?

As I write today, I’m sitting by my great-grandmother’s bedside in a little nursing home cradled away in Pataskala, Ohio. One of the greatest influences she has had on my life is her strength. Strength to love, strength to survive, strength to live. And now at the end of her days, she is surrounded by family that now has to be strong enough to let go.

I wish I could sit and listen to the stories of her life over the past ninety-one years. I know one thing though, she can look back over her life and smile because she knows she was brave. And I pray that one day I can look back over my life and say that I was brave as well.

God is changing everything. Situations, opportunities, He’s taken people out of my life, and brought new people in, and I know it’s all for a reason. He’s setting up a much bigger picture than I can see right now. And this all happened when I prayed a simple prayer, “God, let me brave.”

I was hoping beyond all hope that He would just instill bravery in me and I would be able to face the armies of Mordor with nothing more than a bow and a single arrow. (I’ve never shot a bow before in my life, and for those of you who caught my Lord of the Rings reference, you’re awesome) So clearly, that’s brave. But He didn’t. Instead He’s given me countless opportunities everyday to be brave. Whether they are big or small, they still take courage and faith that He knows what He’s doing.

Can you imagine if we all chose to be brave as our first line of defense? My Pastor says that fear and faith have one thing in common: you have to believe in them. I don’t know about you, but I want to believe in faith.

I have a promise in my heart and believing that I will see it fulfilled requires me to be brave. In the midst of hurt and heartbreak, uncertainty, and doubt, I have to be brave to trust that God is working everything out for His good in His timing.

Do me a favor. Take one second to think about situations in your life. Those things that scare you to death, and consider for a moment how different everything would be if you chose to believe in faith instead of that fear?

We have so much more to live for than just surviving everyday and hoping things will just happen to turn around. Let’s be brave. Let’s have faith. And let’s watch God radically change everything for His Glory.

Xo– Britt

Five Reasons Why I Refuse To Date Church Boys

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Yep, you read that right. I have been saving this post for a few months now, just waiting to share it. So today, we’re going there. Fasten your seat belts, ‘cause this just might be a bit of a bumpy ride.

Reason #1 This might be common sense, but I feel it needs to be said. Just because a guy goes to church does not mean he loves Jesus. Honestly, I’ve met a few church boys who didn’t even know who He is. Just sayin’.

Reason #2 There’s a big difference between a church boy and a man of God. Believe me, I learned this one the hard way. Just because you want a guy to be a man of God does not make him one. Ladies, it does NOT make him one. Stop trying to make him one.

Reason #3 Some church boys will do everything they can to take your purity. A true man of God will never compromise your purity, I promise you that. He will do everything he can to heroically protect it.

Reason #4 This one is one of my biggest pet peeves. Honestly, it makes me sick. Church boys throw around phrases like, ‘God told me we are meant to be together’. Isn’t it crazy how that changes a month or so later and God ‘tells’ them not to date anyone? Oh and they are actually just dating someone else. Ya see, a man of God won’t make excuses. He’ll be honest with you every step of the way. The truth hurts sometimes, but the right guy will handle it as gracefully as he can. A church boy will make excuses and say things that don’t contain an ounce of truth and then stamp God’s name on it. That’s so not okay. I could talk about this one all day, but we’ll save it for another time. Moving on.

Reason #5 Church boys care more about themselves than they do about Christ. They want all the glory. They want to be acknowledged for everything they do. As long as their name is on everyone’s lips, they’re happy. A man of God is sold out to Christ. He dies to himself daily. He doesn’t want the acknowledgment; he gives God ALL of the glory. He doesn’t compromise his standards for anything or anyone. And he refuses to be a part of something that he knows God would not approve of. Whether that means having worldly fame or not.

I’ve watched too many girls, myself included, settle for immature church boys and have their hearts broken over and over again. It’s time we stop letting the world tell us we have no choice but to settle and listen to what God tells us instead. Ya see, He has a wonderful plan for each of us and if we just trust Him, He will lead us to the right person at exactly the right time.

Being single isn’t always fun, especially during the holidays, I know. But I would much rather be single than be with someone who is not meant for me.

I don’t know about you, but I’m so done listening to the world’s opinions. I refuse to settle for less than God’s very best. Who’s with me?

Xo- Britt

It’s Time

It's TimeA year later and my life could not be more different, but I thought nights like this were behind me for good. Looking in the mirror and seeing my tear-stained face staring back at me is not something I was prepared for tonight because somewhere along the way I forgot.

People can be so cruel.

But there’s still hope. There’s always hope.

When you fall, God will pick you up. When you cry, He will cradle every single tear in His hands. When you call on Him, He will answer. People will fail you, God cannot. No matter what you’re walking through right now, remember these three things:

#1. It does NOT matter what people say or think about you. You had a purpose before anyone had an opinion.

#2. God has a plan. Whether you question that plan or not, He has one. And I assure you, it’s better than anything you will ever come up with on your own.

#3. And finally, this one is my favorite. Maybe your heart has been broken, shattered, and it feels like a crumpled up piece of paper sometimes, let me just encourage you to not lose hope. I know it’s hard sometimes, but you have to remember that God keeps His promises.

I don’t know about you, but I’m carrying a promise in my heart right now. And I’m not willing to lose sight of that for anything this world could possibly have to offer. People may doubt your promise, they may attack it and you. Don’t let that keep you from believing in it.

If God placed that promise in your heart, He will fulfill it. And when He does, it will be absolutely beautiful.

It’s time we stop letting people control how we feel about something that’s really none of their business anyway.

Keep praying. Keep believing. Keep trusting God.

As I found myself and my promise attacked again tonight as it has been pretty relentlessly the past few months, I felt my sweet Savior whisper in my heart, “It’s time.”

It’s time we stop doubting Him. It’s time we stand up for His Word. It’s time to kick the enemy in the teeth and walk in the promises and blessing God has for us.

He is faithful.

Xo– Britt

My Forgiveness Is Broken

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Have you ever been hurt? Heartbroken? Beyond that? How easy was it for you to forgive the person who hurt you? For most people, that’s the hardest step. Taking that leap of faith and forgiving the person who tore your heart into pieces. But as you probably have already guessed, I’m not like most people.

Forgiveness was easy for me. It was almost automatic. Well, forgiving the other person was anyway. I had a terrible time forgiving myself for letting it happen. Even though it wasn’t my fault, I felt like it was. I should have seen everything coming. I would have handled it all differently.

 Sidebar: Listen up, stop worrying about the could have’s of life. If it should have happened it would have. Simple as that.

 So, forgiveness… How much is too much? How little is too little? Is it possible to forgive too much? I wish I knew the answers to these questions.

 What I do know is that it is possible to have a warped view of forgiveness. The Bible tells us to forgive just as we’ve been forgiven for a multitude of sins. Amen? But I had to learn a slightly different lesson. It was hard, it was messy, it was super uncomfortable, but in the end it was worth it.

Just because you forgive someone does not mean you have to hang out with them.

You don’t have to be their best friend.

Pray for the people who hurt you. Forgive them, but know that sometimes after you do that, you have to walk away.

Ya see, my forgiveness was broken. I thought since Jesus forgives me every single time I mess up, I needed to do the same thing. BUT the more I forgave this person the more I was hurt. It was the same story over and over and over again. It was ridiculous. When someone accidentally hurts you, it’s a little hard to forgive, but you get over it. When someone is intentionally hurting you, it’s a different story.

Cutting people out of your life is hard. Especially when there is a long history there. But you have to realize that you are worth so much more than the life of broken forgiveness that you’re settling for.

It is possible to love people from a distance. Believe me, I did it for months. It’s hard sometimes. It hurts to look at someone who once meant the world to you and see a total stranger. But if distance allows God to heal your heart fully, it is worth it all!

Hang in there, my friends. You can never be too broken for God to mend you.

 

Xo — Britt

Paris, Wait For Me

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Have you ever felt desperate for change? You don’t necessarily know what you want, but you know it’s a change. Maybe you need to meet some new people or let some old people go. Or maybe you need to go somewhere new. Regardless, you need a change and you need it now.

That’s where I am. That’s where I’ve been for what seems like eight years (but it’s only been about six months… Same difference). I’m just so over everything. I need adventure. I need love. I need a change.

This comes as a total surprise, too. I’m on the right track. I have a wonderful job that I actually enjoy, I just bought a new car (His name is Watson), and I’m now looking for a house. Yep, this girl is rumbling into the adult world at full force. But I’m still not content. I need something.

Could it be that I’m the problem? I’m not the same person I was a year ago. Heck, I’m not the same person I was six months ago. Heartbreak and life will do that to ya. So maybe those dreams have changed? It’s like no matter what lines up in my life, it’s not enough.

All I can think about lately is how badly I wish I was in Paris right now. Writing under the Eiffel Tower waiting for Benedict Cumberbatch or Orlando Bloom to meet me for lunch. (Hey, a girl can dream can’t she?) :)

Maybe I’m just unrealistic. Or maybe I’ve finally realized that I don’t have to settle for life as usual and neither do you. Jesus came to this earth so that we could have life and live it ABUNDANTLY. It’s time to start dreaming again. It’s time to start believing again. It’s time for a new chapter, my friends.

So, Paris? Wait for me. This adventure is only beginning. Who’s with me?

Xo — Britt

Misery Loves Company

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Have you ever been around someone who is always miserable? Someone who

constantly searches for the negative in absolutely everything? How do you feel

after being around them? Miserable? It’s like they suck the life and joy right

out of you, right?

 

Do you know anyone like that? I’m sure you do. I can think of a few in my own

life right now. So how do we handle those less than positive people? 

 

Pray for them. Pray that God would soften their hearts and allow Him to show

them the world through His eyes.

 

Don’t allow the negativity to seep into your soul. Negative people hate being

around positive people. It upsets them, because everything upsets them. So be positive.

 

•Finally, this is the most important, remember that misery loves company. I’m

gonna let you in on a little secret, and this may shock you, but you don’t have to visit. That’s right, you don’t have to visit. When misery comes your way, just walk away. Sometimes this

can mean just creating a little distance between yourself and the person bringing you down, but sometimes it means walking away.

 The latter is not easy. Walking away doesn’t mean that you don’t care or you

don’t love them. It just means that you care enough about yourself to not let

anyone steal your joy. You deserve to be happy! Refuse to let anyone convince

you otherwise.

 

The next time misery knocks on your door, pretend you aren’t at home. You can

even be dramatic about it. Turn off all the lights, crawl across the floor and

hide in a closet if ya want. My point is, getting sucked into misery and drama is

not worth it.

 

Pray about the situation. Pray for the people involved. And if distancing

yourself isn’t enough, and God is leading you in a different direction, walk

away.

Xo — Britt

A Single Pringle’s Guide to Weddings

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Summer time is here! Beach waves, tan skin, and new summer romances are all around us. There’s just something about summer that makes falling in love even more magical. This post is all about summer love and happily ever afters… for someone else. Yep, you read that right. This is one of the most requested posts I’ve ever had. We’re talking about how to survive the wedding season for Single Pringles.

I’ve attended eight weddings since last April. Have you ever noticed that your friends all get married at the same time? It’s so weird. Anyway, I was a single pringle for all but one, and even then I still went to the wedding by myself because my beau at the time had to work. Before we get into this thing, it’s important to know where you stand.

Maybe you are like me and going to weddings by yourself doesn’t really bother you. Or maybe you’re one of those people who refuse to go to a wedding without a date by your side. Either way, I hope this post helps you cope with the upcoming wedding season.

Everyone is different so things that don’t bother me at weddings might drive you crazy and vice versa. So if you have any other ways that you cope with the grand event please leave your comments below. :)

  • This may seem a bit harsh, but it’s really important, especially if you’re one of those people who refuse to go to a wedding without a date. You need to realize that this day is NOT about you. It’s not. It’s about the bride and groom. The world does not revolve around you, just in case you were wondering.
  • Before you decide that you won’t be attending the wedding because you are dateless think about how you would feel if your friend did the same thing to you. I don’t know about you, but I would not miss my friend’s special day just because I didn’t have a date.. juss sayin’.
  • Going to a wedding by yourself is not as bad as you think it is. There are moments that could end up being a bit disastrous, but there are ways to avoid them.

Here are my tips for surviving a wedding as a single pringle.

Smile, a lot. Weddings are meant to be a day of love and happiness. If you’re walking around frowning you’re kind of a buzz kill. Kind of like Cinderella and her step-sisters… don’t be an ugly step-sister.

Dance. Enjoy the day. You’ll feel better if you cut a rug… juss sayin’.

Celebrate. Refuse to be the single pringle who sits in a corner and just watches everyone else enjoy themselves. How would you feel if your friends came to your wedding and sat in a corner and complained the whole time? Don’t be that friend.

Ignore the single pringle comments. When my sister got married last year, I constantly had people all day asking me when it was going to be my turn. Those comments can hurt if you let them get to you. Instead of stuffing your face with wedding cake and crying in a closet, just smile and tell them that God is writing your love story. It’s kind of hard to complain when the Creator of the universe is picking out your soulmate, right?

And finally, remember that you are not forever alone. I know it’s hard. Being a single pringle can be lonely and sad and heartbreaking sometimes, but God is not finished with you yet. He knows exactly where you are and He is preparing you for a future only He can see. Don’t rush the process. If you skip the preparation, you’ll miss your destination.

God is writing your story. Don’t settle out of loneliness for a frog when your prince is right around the corner. Your very own happily ever after may be closer than you think.

Xo- Britt