Some people are rude. Some are immature. Some are liars. Some are cheaters, and some are downright mean. But guess what? You don’t have to make a place for them in your heart or your life.
One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned on my journey to be brave at every opportunity is that the wrong people won’t always just exit your life. Sometimes you have to be brave and show them out. And sometimes when they linger on your door step, you have to gently shut the door in their face.
I’m not saying you have to be mean back, though I’m sure you will want to be from time to time. My point is, it’s okay to want to punch them in the face, just don’t actually act on it.
So I’m sure you’re wondering, Britt, how do you deal with horrible people and not vomit every time you see them? Well, sometimes it is definitely not easy.
•The first thing you need to do when you face a terrible person is to pray for them. Depending on their level of rude, and just how much damage they have caused you, this can be really hard. But trust me, you need to pray for them. God will help you not punch them in the face. I promise.
•Don’t sink down to their level. Take the high road. Again, not easy, I know. Especially when people are spreading lies about you and just being plain nasty to your face. If you are praying for the person and about the situation, taking the high road will become easier. Trust me.
•Don’t you dare vent your frustrations out on social media. DON’T DO IT. I’m not even kidding. This will cause more trouble and more drama than it’s worth. I’ve had friends tell me that once they put these people on blast, it’ll all end. So far, they’ve never been right. You’re basically throwing wood on the fire. DO NOT DO IT.
And what if you have closed the door on someone and they have suddenly broken through a window? Don’t get discouraged. It’s frustrating for sure, but you will get through it. Trust God, seek Him, and lay every single frustration at His feet. You will feel the world lift off your shoulders, I promise.
If they try to force their way back into your life, keep walkin’. Don’t stop for even a second to entertain the thought. You’re better than that. You deserve better than that. Don’t let them convince you that you belong on their level.
Proverbs 20:3 says this, “Any fool can start arguments; the honorable thing is to stay out of them” (TEV).
I know it’s hard sometimes, but there are people who are only meant to be in your life for a season. Move on and don’t look back.
Keep walkin’. You’ve got this.
Xo — Britt