… But He Loves Jesus

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He’s seriously so amazing, girl. He’s funny, he’s sweet, and he loves Jesus!’ I so excitedly confided in my best friend. Everything seemed perfect. What I didn’t realize was just how far from perfect it really was.

In a world where standards and morals are rare, it can be tough for a single pringle. Especially since good, Godly men are few and far between these days. So when you find one, it’s almost too easy to get too excited far too soon.

I was eighteen and in love with being in love. I learned two huge lessons that year. One, just because a guy loves Jesus does not mean he is the one for you. And two, just because a guy says he loves Jesus does not mean he does.

I know so many girls that think just because they meet a new guy who says he loves Jesus that they are going to get married. I’m not saying it can’t be that easy, but it’s not always that simple.

I know several guys who say they love Jesus and they don’t even really know Who He is. Can I just be real with you for a second? If a guy is telling you that he loves Jesus, but is trying to compromise your purity at the same time, RUN. If he is truly sold out to Christ like he says, then he will do whatever he can to heroically protect your purity.

I know it’s frustrating, and I know how hard it is to think you’ve finally found ‘the one’ only to be let down. No matter how limited you feel your choices are, NEVER drop your standards.

“Men with standards of their own aren’t intimidated by the idea of living up to someone else’s. If he says your standards are too high, chances are his are non-existent.” Lauren DeMoss, thefulltimegirl.com

I know it may not always seem like it, but there are still good guys out there. Awesome men of God do exist. Don’t believe me? Check out my post, A Godly Man, Who Can Find?

God has not forgotten you. He loves you so much. Trust that His plan is better than yours. And always remember, that you deserve His absolute best. Grow closer to Him each and every day.

You deserve a man who truly loves Jesus and backs it up with the way he lives his life every single day.

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5,6

“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

Xo — Britt

Copy Cat

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Trying to be someone else is a total and complete waste of the person God created YOU to be. One of my biggest pet peeves in the entire universe is when people copy others. It’s fine to look up to people, be inspired, and have role models. Those are all great things, but you can be inspired by someone without copying their lives.

This is something I have had a lot of experience with lately. I seriously have someone copying my life and it’s honestly driving me nuts. Legit every single thing I have done the past few months, this person does. They copy even the smallest things, I changed my name on twitter, they changed theirs. I put a picture up on Instagram, they take a picture exactly like it and post it. It’s insane!

I was extra frustrated about this yesterday, but then I read a Facebook status by one of my favorite writers, Jarrid Wilson.

“I wouldn’t encourage anyone to mimic their life off of me, or anyone else for that matter. The only person I would point to is Christ.”

After I read that, I wanted to reach through my computer and hug him. It was seriously so perfect. High five, Jarrid! ‘I would never encourage anyone to mimic their life off of me.’ I cannot get over how amazing this is.

God has a one-of-a-kind, unique plan for YOUR life. If you are constantly trying to be someone else, you’re not living out His Will for you. You are YOU for a REASON. Stop chasing after someone else’s anointing, stop copying everything someone else does. You have no idea what God has called them to walk through to get where they are. Believe me, you don’t want to go where I’ve been.

If you are a copy cat, find your own identity in Christ. Find yourself. BE YOURSELF.

If you are a victim of a copy cat, don’t let it get to you. I know it’s annoying, and I know it’s incredibly frustrating. Just keep being you. Let that light shine and don’t allow them to put it out. If your copy cat doesn’t want to live their own life, there’s really nothing you can do about it. Be kind, show Jesus, and trust that He will take care of it.

Never forget, that purely being you, is one of the most beautiful things in this world. You are special, one-of-a-kind, and awesome. Don’t waste your time being anything less than yourself.

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.” Psalm 139:14-16 ESV

“Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching” Romans 12:6-7 ESV

Be yourself, y’all. You’re awesome. God loves you for YOU. Never forget it!

Xo — Britt

My Future Is In A Box

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If you’re reading this, I’m sure you have a few questions. What does that mean ‘my future is in a box’? Do you realize how weird that sounds? Yeah, yeah, I do. But it’s totally true… well kinda.

The box I’m talking about sits on top of my hope chest. So wait, it’s an actual, physical box? And you’re saying that your future is inside of it? Girl, what in the world are you talking about?

The ‘future’ is a tricky subject. We’re actually living in the future of yesterday, right now, this very moment… in case you didn’t know that. We all have dreams and plans for what we hope our future looks like, right?

Inside my box sits countless letters, cards, trinkets, etc. Tear-stained envelopes, dorky pictures, life-changing moments, heartbreaking goodbyes, you name it. I call this box my Boaz box aka future husband box. If you don’t know who Boaz is, read the book of Ruth.

Ya see, I may be a single pringle right now, but I know that God has an awesome man out there for me and one day very soon, I’ll meet him. In the meantime, I’m praying for him, writing to him, and loving him. That may sound crazy since I don’t even know his name, though I sometimes hope it’s Orlando Bloom or Benedict Cumberbatch.

I’m in no way saying that we should sit around and wait for a man to show up so we can start pursuing our future. I have plans and dreams that have nothing to do with this fella. Some of which I’m walking out right now, but the ones that do pertain to him are written in my box. I’m not saying that my Boaz box makes this season of singleness any easier, but it does help me keep my focus on the plan that God has for me. It can be really easy to get our eyes off of His plan and onto our own distractions, but keeping a consistent connection to my promise through my letters helps so, so much. 

Being a single pringle can be frustrating and lonely at times. I know how hard it is to watch all of your friends get married and still be left waiting for your man to show up. Believe me, I know. It isn’t fun. I don’t care how confident you are in your singleness, we all have moments where we wish things were different.

Just remember, God has the perfect match for you and He also has impeccable timing. He’s writing your love story as we speak. Don’t give up. Use this time to get to know yourself, grow closer to God, and know that He is the only One who can truly complete you.

Write letters to your future husband, pray for him, allow God to mold you into the woman your fella will need you to be. Waiting isn’t fun, but God is using this time of waiting to prepare you for everything and everyone your future holds. Hang in there, single pringles. God’s got this!

Xo–Britt

“I’m Not Good Enough”

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As I was going through emails last night, several pertained to the same theme. Since so many asked about it, and it is one I am all too familiar with, I decided it would be a good idea to address it in a post.

Dating, relationships, and friendships, can all be very tricky. Feelings are messy. If you already have a low self-esteem, the smallest act can send your emotions on the fritz. It isn’t fun.

Let’s start this off with an email that was sent to me: “He broke up with me and now he’s dating my best friend. He broke up with me through a text. I always thought I wasn’t good enough for him and now I know that I’m not. Do you know what that feels like? I bet you don’t.” –Allie

Allie, you are definitely not alone. I know all too well what you’re going through. I went through it for months. The constant torture of ‘what if’’ and ‘why now’, always wondering what you could’ve, should’ve, would’ve, done better. You can drive yourself mad trying to figure out what happened.

I know exactly what it feels like to be ‘not good enough’. My ex-boyfriend drove me around for two hours telling me everything that I could change to be ‘better’ for him. When he finally brought me back to my car, he looked me in the eye, and flat out told me that I wasn’t good enough for him and I wasn’t meeting his incredibly high expectations. Talk about heartbreak.

He has since moved on with someone he deems to be ‘better’ than me. And I honestly had an incredibly hard time dealing with it for about a month and a half. I basically hated myself.

Then I realized something, and once I finally did, I got over it. It wasn’t easy and God had to walk (and sometimes drag) me through it every step of the way, but I survived and so will you.

First of all, NEVER let anyone tell you that you aren’t good enough or that you aren’t worth pursuing. God became man, died, and rose again, just to pursue you! You are worth so much more than you realize. If someone tells you that you aren’t good enough for them, in reality, they don’t deserve you!

Secondly, remember that your worth and your identity do NOT come from man. They can say whatever they want to about you, it doesn’t matter. The only opinion you need to be concerned with is God’s. He knows absolutely everything there is to know about you, including everything you will do in the future, and ya know what? He loves you anyway.

Lastly, don’t allow yourself to stay in that place for too long. Rejection hurts. Being told you aren’t good enough is one of the worst feelings in the world. It is going to hurt, it is going to sting, but you can rise above it. Cry your heart out, eat a gallon of ice cream, and move on. The person who hurt you could care less. Forgive them and let it go. You don’t need people like that in your life anyway. Surround yourself with people who build you up instead of tearing you down.

And always remember, a lion doesn’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.

You have worth. You are loved. And you are good enough.

Xo– Britt

Closed Doors

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As I’m sitting here writing this, I have a closed door staring me in the tear-stained face. I’ve known it was closed for a little while now, but tonight the realization hit me hard, right in the heart.

For those of you who may not know, my grandpa passed away tonight. He was surrounded by family and gently slipped into the arms of Jesus. We’re all heartbroken right now, but we know that we WILL see him again. ❤️

This closed door that I wanted to talk to y’all about happened a little later in the evening.

Before I say anything else let me say this:
Sometimes God removes people from your life because He knows you are much better off without them. I had a very hard time dealing with this in recent months. But tonight, as I was mourning the loss of my sweet grandpa, the door slammed hard on a relationship that I thought I would have for the rest of my life.

People change. And it’s not always for the better. A sweet, caring boy who loves Jesus can turn out to be a massive jerk who carries a Bible.

They pride themselves on love and honesty, but they only care about themselves and lie to everyone about everything.

I was holding onto a tiny strand of hope that this closed door was still cracked open. I learned tonight that it is sealed shut for good.

Ya see, in one of the saddest, darkest moments of my life, the one person I wanted and needed to be there for me wasn’t. Actually when I reached out to him, he didn’t know who I was.

Maybe it’s just me, but one of the saddest things in the world is when best friends become complete strangers. That’s exactly what happened. Behind my closed door stands a friendship, a relationship, a love, for the guy I had every intention of marrying. All the dreams, all the plans, they now lay buried, never to be taken up again.

Everything happens for a reason. We may not understand it, but God does. As long as we walk with Him and continue to trust Him, He will never lead us astray.

When you’re in the sunshine, everyone wants to be your friend. But when you’re stuck in a storm, you find out who your true friends are.

I know who my true friends are, and I know the one person who is no longer in that category. It hurts, it stings, but I know I’ll be better for it.

God will never take something away without giving you something so much better. Trust Him.

God’s blessings are all around us and sometimes, they just might be closed doors.

Tiny side note: Please keep my family in your prayers as we endure this difficult time. It would be greatly appreciated. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️

Xo– Britt

Six Ways To Survive A Single Pringle Valentine’s Day

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Love is in the air everywhere you look around, and frankly, for a single pringle, it can be quite annoying. So before you settle in for an evening of tears and ice cream, let me give you a few survival tips this single pringle has learned over the years.

  • First of all, don’t beat yourself up. It’s just one day of the year that people actually focus on loving each other. True, you don’t have someone to give you flowers and chocolate, but so what? Are you really going to let that justify your existence?
  • Secondly, do yourself a favor and stay off of social media. If your heart can’t take the countless sappy love notes on Facebook without getting angry, just avoid it. Your timeline will be full of engagement announcements and people professing to the world that the person they’ve been with for a week and half is the love of their life. I don’t know about you, but I want a real-life romance, not a Facebook one.
  • Do NOT, I repeat, do NOT watch the Notebook. Or any other sappy romance that you know will make you cry. This is unnecessary torture you’re bombarding yourself with. If you find yourself alone on Valentine’s Day watch happy movies. Laughing is much better than crying.
  • If you don’t want to spend Valentine’s Day all alone, then don’t. Call up your single friends. Go out to dinner or have a movie night in. Surround yourself with people who love you.
  • If you want to spend Valentine’s Day alone, then do it. Maybe you don’t want to go out with friends, that’s fine. Stay in, pop some popcorn, and watch Sherlock. Sounds like a happy, cozy evening to me. 
  • Realize that you have the greatest Valentine of all in your Savior. He is honestly the only One who will ever love you unconditionally. He knows EVERYTHING about you. I cannot think of anyone I would rather spend the day of love loving, can you?

Valentine’s Day can be tough for a single pringle, but it’s only as tough as you make it. I’ve never been in a relationship on Valentine’s Day and honestly, I’m completely okay with that. If you are struggling through this love season, take heart, it only lasts so long. The loving sentiments and sappy Facebook posts will be over by the 15th. Don’t worry about it.

Don’t spend the day of love upset, depressed, and lonely. Spend it with Love Himself. Get in the Word, let Him speak to your heart. Jesus loves you so much that He died for you. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather have Jesus than flowers and chocolate any day.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Xo — Britt