Have you ever been hurt? Heartbroken? Beyond that? How easy was it for you to forgive the person who hurt you? For most people, that’s the hardest step. Taking that leap of faith and forgiving the person who tore your heart into pieces. But as you probably have already guessed, I’m not like most people.
Forgiveness was easy for me. It was almost automatic. Well, forgiving the other person was anyway. I had a terrible time forgiving myself for letting it happen. Even though it wasn’t my fault, I felt like it was. I should have seen everything coming. I would have handled it all differently.
Sidebar: Listen up, stop worrying about the could have’s of life. If it should have happened it would have. Simple as that.
So, forgiveness… How much is too much? How little is too little? Is it possible to forgive too much? I wish I knew the answers to these questions.
What I do know is that it is possible to have a warped view of forgiveness. The Bible tells us to forgive just as we’ve been forgiven for a multitude of sins. Amen? But I had to learn a slightly different lesson. It was hard, it was messy, it was super uncomfortable, but in the end it was worth it.
Just because you forgive someone does not mean you have to hang out with them.
You don’t have to be their best friend.
Pray for the people who hurt you. Forgive them, but know that sometimes after you do that, you have to walk away.
Ya see, my forgiveness was broken. I thought since Jesus forgives me every single time I mess up, I needed to do the same thing. BUT the more I forgave this person the more I was hurt. It was the same story over and over and over again. It was ridiculous. When someone accidentally hurts you, it’s a little hard to forgive, but you get over it. When someone is intentionally hurting you, it’s a different story.
Cutting people out of your life is hard. Especially when there is a long history there. But you have to realize that you are worth so much more than the life of broken forgiveness that you’re settling for.
It is possible to love people from a distance. Believe me, I did it for months. It’s hard sometimes. It hurts to look at someone who once meant the world to you and see a total stranger. But if distance allows God to heal your heart fully, it is worth it all!
Hang in there, my friends. You can never be too broken for God to mend you.
Xo — Britt