Paris, Wait For Me

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Have you ever felt desperate for change? You don’t necessarily know what you want, but you know it’s a change. Maybe you need to meet some new people or let some old people go. Or maybe you need to go somewhere new. Regardless, you need a change and you need it now.

That’s where I am. That’s where I’ve been for what seems like eight years (but it’s only been about six months… Same difference). I’m just so over everything. I need adventure. I need love. I need a change.

This comes as a total surprise, too. I’m on the right track. I have a wonderful job that I actually enjoy, I just bought a new car (His name is Watson), and I’m now looking for a house. Yep, this girl is rumbling into the adult world at full force. But I’m still not content. I need something.

Could it be that I’m the problem? I’m not the same person I was a year ago. Heck, I’m not the same person I was six months ago. Heartbreak and life will do that to ya. So maybe those dreams have changed? It’s like no matter what lines up in my life, it’s not enough.

All I can think about lately is how badly I wish I was in Paris right now. Writing under the Eiffel Tower waiting for Benedict Cumberbatch or Orlando Bloom to meet me for lunch. (Hey, a girl can dream can’t she?) :)

Maybe I’m just unrealistic. Or maybe I’ve finally realized that I don’t have to settle for life as usual and neither do you. Jesus came to this earth so that we could have life and live it ABUNDANTLY. It’s time to start dreaming again. It’s time to start believing again. It’s time for a new chapter, my friends.

So, Paris? Wait for me. This adventure is only beginning. Who’s with me?

Xo — Britt

Misery Loves Company

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Have you ever been around someone who is always miserable? Someone who

constantly searches for the negative in absolutely everything? How do you feel

after being around them? Miserable? It’s like they suck the life and joy right

out of you, right?

 

Do you know anyone like that? I’m sure you do. I can think of a few in my own

life right now. So how do we handle those less than positive people? 

 

Pray for them. Pray that God would soften their hearts and allow Him to show

them the world through His eyes.

 

Don’t allow the negativity to seep into your soul. Negative people hate being

around positive people. It upsets them, because everything upsets them. So be positive.

 

•Finally, this is the most important, remember that misery loves company. I’m

gonna let you in on a little secret, and this may shock you, but you don’t have to visit. That’s right, you don’t have to visit. When misery comes your way, just walk away. Sometimes this

can mean just creating a little distance between yourself and the person bringing you down, but sometimes it means walking away.

 The latter is not easy. Walking away doesn’t mean that you don’t care or you

don’t love them. It just means that you care enough about yourself to not let

anyone steal your joy. You deserve to be happy! Refuse to let anyone convince

you otherwise.

 

The next time misery knocks on your door, pretend you aren’t at home. You can

even be dramatic about it. Turn off all the lights, crawl across the floor and

hide in a closet if ya want. My point is, getting sucked into misery and drama is

not worth it.

 

Pray about the situation. Pray for the people involved. And if distancing

yourself isn’t enough, and God is leading you in a different direction, walk

away.

Xo — Britt

A Single Pringle’s Guide to Weddings

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Summer time is here! Beach waves, tan skin, and new summer romances are all around us. There’s just something about summer that makes falling in love even more magical. This post is all about summer love and happily ever afters… for someone else. Yep, you read that right. This is one of the most requested posts I’ve ever had. We’re talking about how to survive the wedding season for Single Pringles.

I’ve attended eight weddings since last April. Have you ever noticed that your friends all get married at the same time? It’s so weird. Anyway, I was a single pringle for all but one, and even then I still went to the wedding by myself because my beau at the time had to work. Before we get into this thing, it’s important to know where you stand.

Maybe you are like me and going to weddings by yourself doesn’t really bother you. Or maybe you’re one of those people who refuse to go to a wedding without a date by your side. Either way, I hope this post helps you cope with the upcoming wedding season.

Everyone is different so things that don’t bother me at weddings might drive you crazy and vice versa. So if you have any other ways that you cope with the grand event please leave your comments below. :)

  • This may seem a bit harsh, but it’s really important, especially if you’re one of those people who refuse to go to a wedding without a date. You need to realize that this day is NOT about you. It’s not. It’s about the bride and groom. The world does not revolve around you, just in case you were wondering.
  • Before you decide that you won’t be attending the wedding because you are dateless think about how you would feel if your friend did the same thing to you. I don’t know about you, but I would not miss my friend’s special day just because I didn’t have a date.. juss sayin’.
  • Going to a wedding by yourself is not as bad as you think it is. There are moments that could end up being a bit disastrous, but there are ways to avoid them.

Here are my tips for surviving a wedding as a single pringle.

-Smile, a lot. Weddings are meant to be a day of love and happiness. If you’re walking around frowning you’re kind of a buzz kill. Kind of like Cinderella and her step-sisters… don’t be an ugly step-sister.

-Dance. Enjoy the day. You’ll feel better if you cut a rug… juss sayin’.

-Celebrate. Refuse to be the single pringle who sits in a corner and just watches everyone else enjoy themselves. How would you feel if your friends came to your wedding and sat in a corner and complained the whole time? Don’t be that friend.

-Ignore the single pringle comments. When my sister got married last year, I constantly had people all day asking me when it was going to be my turn. Those comments can hurt if you let them get to you. Instead of stuffing your face with wedding cake and crying in a closet, just smile and tell them that God is writing your love story. It’s kind of hard to complain when the Creator of the universe is picking out your soulmate, right?

And finally, remember that you are not forever alone. I know it’s hard. Being a single pringle can be lonely and sad and heartbreaking sometimes, but God is not finished with you yet. He knows exactly where you are and He is preparing you for a future only He can see. Don’t rush the process. If you skip the preparation, you’ll miss your destination.

God is writing your story. Don’t settle out of loneliness for a frog when your prince is right around the corner. Your very own happily ever after may be closer than you think.

Xo- Britt

Secrets Hidden Behind Closed Doors

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We all have secrets. We all have things we would rather not share with others. Some secrets are harmless. For example, wanna know a secret? I ate a carton of ice cream while crying my eyes out and watching Sherlock three weeks ago. Was it harmful? No. Embarrassing? Maybe a little. But, I’m not talking about those secrets. What about the things we’ve done or are doing that we know are wrong? Those kind of secrets. The ones that could tear your world apart and flip it upside down if anyone ever found out. Are you cringing yet? Me too, but hang on, we’ll make it through this together.

I’m talking about those secrets that only you know. The ones that you shouldn’t have because they never should have happened. The ones that keep you up at night. The ones that are always there in the back of your mind. The ones you have hidden behind mountains of lies. Ya know what I’m talking about? Well, what if I told you, Someone else knows your secret? Is your stomach turning yet?

Those dark secrets that you think sit behind huge closed doors never to be opened? Yep, those exact ones. Someone else knew about them before you ever had them. How could anyone possibly know that, right?

God knows everything. He knew you would carry that secret before you ever did. He knew each and every temptation you would struggle with.

So God knows my secret… so what? Yeah, He knew the secrets you would carry, but He also offered you an escape. You were never meant to carry those secrets. You were never meant to bear this burden on your own. Give your secrets to God. Stop playing around. Be real, be open with Him. You have no idea just how freeing that is.

Trust me, I don’t care how thick you think your closed doors are. I don’t care how many lies you’ve covered those secrets up with. They could be buried in a dungeon behind a door with a thousand locks and bolts, your secret will come out.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve hidden, how secret you think they are. When the Truth shines in the darkness, there is nowhere for your secrets to hide.

Stop hiding. Stop lying. Just stop.

God already knows everything and He still loves you unconditionally. He’s just waiting for you to come back to Him. Show Him your heart. You won’t regret it.

“For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be made known and come to light.” Luke 8:17

“For God will bring every deed into judgment, with every secret thing, whether good or evil.” Ecclesiastes 12:14

“For nothing is hidden except to be made manifest; nor is anything secret except come to light.” Mark 4:22

“Therefore whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops.” Luke 12:3

“Would God not discover this? For He knows the secrets of the heart.” Psalm 44:21

You can get it out in the open with God now, or you can wait. Your secrets are not as secret as you think they are and I promise you, they will come out eventually. Plan accordingly.

Xo–Britt

… But He Loves Jesus

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He’s seriously so amazing, girl. He’s funny, he’s sweet, and he loves Jesus!’ I so excitedly confided in my best friend. Everything seemed perfect. What I didn’t realize was just how far from perfect it really was.

In a world where standards and morals are rare, it can be tough for a single pringle. Especially since good, Godly men are few and far between these days. So when you find one, it’s almost too easy to get too excited far too soon.

I was eighteen and in love with being in love. I learned two huge lessons that year. One, just because a guy loves Jesus does not mean he is the one for you. And two, just because a guy says he loves Jesus does not mean he does.

I know so many girls that think just because they meet a new guy who says he loves Jesus that they are going to get married. I’m not saying it can’t be that easy, but it’s not always that simple.

I know several guys who say they love Jesus and they don’t even really know Who He is. Can I just be real with you for a second? If a guy is telling you that he loves Jesus, but is trying to compromise your purity at the same time, RUN. If he is truly sold out to Christ like he says, then he will do whatever he can to heroically protect your purity.

I know it’s frustrating, and I know how hard it is to think you’ve finally found ‘the one’ only to be let down. No matter how limited you feel your choices are, NEVER drop your standards.

“Men with standards of their own aren’t intimidated by the idea of living up to someone else’s. If he says your standards are too high, chances are his are non-existent.” Lauren DeMoss, thefulltimegirl.com

I know it may not always seem like it, but there are still good guys out there. Awesome men of God do exist. Don’t believe me? Check out my post, A Godly Man, Who Can Find?

God has not forgotten you. He loves you so much. Trust that His plan is better than yours. And always remember, that you deserve His absolute best. Grow closer to Him each and every day.

You deserve a man who truly loves Jesus and backs it up with the way he lives his life every single day.

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5,6

“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

Xo — Britt

Copy Cat

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Trying to be someone else is a total and complete waste of the person God created YOU to be. One of my biggest pet peeves in the entire universe is when people copy others. It’s fine to look up to people, be inspired, and have role models. Those are all great things, but you can be inspired by someone without copying their lives.

This is something I have had a lot of experience with lately. I seriously have someone copying my life and it’s honestly driving me nuts. Legit every single thing I have done the past few months, this person does. They copy even the smallest things, I changed my name on twitter, they changed theirs. I put a picture up on Instagram, they take a picture exactly like it and post it. It’s insane!

I was extra frustrated about this yesterday, but then I read a Facebook status by one of my favorite writers, Jarrid Wilson.

“I wouldn’t encourage anyone to mimic their life off of me, or anyone else for that matter. The only person I would point to is Christ.”

After I read that, I wanted to reach through my computer and hug him. It was seriously so perfect. High five, Jarrid! ‘I would never encourage anyone to mimic their life off of me.’ I cannot get over how amazing this is.

God has a one-of-a-kind, unique plan for YOUR life. If you are constantly trying to be someone else, you’re not living out His Will for you. You are YOU for a REASON. Stop chasing after someone else’s anointing, stop copying everything someone else does. You have no idea what God has called them to walk through to get where they are. Believe me, you don’t want to go where I’ve been.

If you are a copy cat, find your own identity in Christ. Find yourself. BE YOURSELF.

If you are a victim of a copy cat, don’t let it get to you. I know it’s annoying, and I know it’s incredibly frustrating. Just keep being you. Let that light shine and don’t allow them to put it out. If your copy cat doesn’t want to live their own life, there’s really nothing you can do about it. Be kind, show Jesus, and trust that He will take care of it.

Never forget, that purely being you, is one of the most beautiful things in this world. You are special, one-of-a-kind, and awesome. Don’t waste your time being anything less than yourself.

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.” Psalm 139:14-16 ESV

“Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching” Romans 12:6-7 ESV

Be yourself, y’all. You’re awesome. God loves you for YOU. Never forget it!

Xo — Britt

My Future Is In A Box

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If you’re reading this, I’m sure you have a few questions. What does that mean ‘my future is in a box’? Do you realize how weird that sounds? Yeah, yeah, I do. But it’s totally true… well kinda.

The box I’m talking about sits on top of my hope chest. So wait, it’s an actual, physical box? And you’re saying that your future is inside of it? Girl, what in the world are you talking about?

The ‘future’ is a tricky subject. We’re actually living in the future of yesterday, right now, this very moment… in case you didn’t know that. We all have dreams and plans for what we hope our future looks like, right?

Inside my box sits countless letters, cards, trinkets, etc. Tear-stained envelopes, dorky pictures, life-changing moments, heartbreaking goodbyes, you name it. I call this box my Boaz box aka future husband box. If you don’t know who Boaz is, read the book of Ruth.

Ya see, I may be a single pringle right now, but I know that God has an awesome man out there for me and one day very soon, I’ll meet him. In the meantime, I’m praying for him, writing to him, and loving him. That may sound crazy since I don’t even know his name, though I sometimes hope it’s Orlando Bloom or Benedict Cumberbatch.

I’m in no way saying that we should sit around and wait for a man to show up so we can start pursuing our future. I have plans and dreams that have nothing to do with this fella. Some of which I’m walking out right now, but the ones that do pertain to him are written in my box. I’m not saying that my Boaz box makes this season of singleness any easier, but it does help me keep my focus on the plan that God has for me. It can be really easy to get our eyes off of His plan and onto our own distractions, but keeping a consistent connection to my promise through my letters helps so, so much. 

Being a single pringle can be frustrating and lonely at times. I know how hard it is to watch all of your friends get married and still be left waiting for your man to show up. Believe me, I know. It isn’t fun. I don’t care how confident you are in your singleness, we all have moments where we wish things were different.

Just remember, God has the perfect match for you and He also has impeccable timing. He’s writing your love story as we speak. Don’t give up. Use this time to get to know yourself, grow closer to God, and know that He is the only One who can truly complete you.

Write letters to your future husband, pray for him, allow God to mold you into the woman your fella will need you to be. Waiting isn’t fun, but God is using this time of waiting to prepare you for everything and everyone your future holds. Hang in there, single pringles. God’s got this!

Xo–Britt